Today’s Daily Post – INTJ asked Do parties and crowds fill you with energy, or send you scurrying for peace and quiet?
I take after my parents on this – avoid crowds unless absolutely necessary. Or, like my brother – if surrounded by good friends in an adventurous setting, then it’s sane insanity. Otherwise, if I have to go and there aren’t any familiar faces (be it convention, conference, what have you), then there’s a strong chance I’ll keep close to the door or be sure that an easy escape route exist.
Don’t get me wrong – I love my adventures in the city (this includes some of the madness that came with Emerald City Comicon, or larger than usual crowds at the SAM). If I go solo, there’s no one to lose but myself. If I go with friends, then I’m ‘anchored’ in terms of sanity, safety and squashing the ‘flight’ response.
Tonight, I could (should) feel guilty in bailing out on two possible appointments. Instead, I took comfort in reading my meditations and drawing. Yes, the drawing was part of the Arthouse Co-op project collection, and technically there was a deadline to tonight’s doodling, but it was soothing, letting the lines just go in time to the music.
Read a wonderful post by Denise this evening that supported my choice, not that I needed outside justification; it’s nice to know I’m not alone in the need of ‘rest’ or ‘slowing down.’ There’s a reason why “The Introvert’s Way” by Sophia Dembling is one of my favorites.
Then again, my time with the meditations is wonderfully quieting.
How about you? Comfortable among the crowds or secure in the silence?

Good for you, Takako! It isn’t easy backing out of an obligation when I feel overwhelmed.
I think it really depends on my mood whether I prefer a crowd or solitude. I truly enjoy both, at different times.
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I love being around people, the excitement, the exchanges, but then afterward I feel drained and need to retreat to my house and quiet to recuperate. It’s a natural reaction. Too much separation from the human contact is just as bad. It’s trying to find the right mix that can be frustrating.
I think the only place I never had to worry was at church gatherings (when in Denver). Balance is key and it’s interesting to see how some habits have changed over time.
Oh I totally understand. Good for you for not taking so long to know yourself!